How to overcome Separation Anxiety?

In what manner separating yourself from others can be Toxic:

"The greatest illusion in this world is the illusion of separation."

~Ralph Smart

Have you ever thought about how we all are interconnected to one another? instead of the great illusion of separation fed into our heads since the beginning. Our thought comes to one point at the end, and if we accept this thing, there will be no ego and hate towards each other.

Why do we separate ourselves from others? Typically it’s because of religion, race, and color? Do we have any command over these? The answer is no. So why do we keep running after these? Every creature has its perks then; why this separation exists? After all, we are all humans, and we are all the same. We can eradicate this illusion of separation by getting rid of our egos.

It’s been decades since humans have been setting standards; whether it’s about caste, money, or beauty standards, thousands of people suffer from this and feel that they are lesser than they have to be. This thing drags people to depression, anxiety, and whatnot. The reason behind contrasting yourself with others is underestimating your qualities and embracing others' good points. Every human being has flaws, and no one is perfect. Your capabilities make you superior and different.

The things that I am now going to mention will change the perception of your thoughts.

The conception of separation:

Separation is an evaluation of the homonyms of one or more things relative to each other. It is human nature that sometimes he opts to separate himself from others in negative or positive ways. Now it all depends on the person how he comes up with this.

As Ricardo Lagos quoted once, "there is no reason to have problems between country and country, between government and government, when there is a separation of power."

Constructive separation is a healthy thing to do for yourself until it disrupts your mental health. People shatter their authentic selves just to fit in anybody else's criteria. Don’t compare your color to anyone. You are the best of your kind and what matters is your humanity rather than society's standards.

We are all one:

These words always inspire me from the core "We are all ONE, no matter in what form, space, or time. As ONE, we can change the world if we start changing ourselves." ~Akiane K

I strongly believe in the concept of oneness. The most beautiful thing about this is that you feel connected to everyone, hate decreases, and most importantly, ego goes away. There truly is no slam order in nature. Everything cooperates from the whole. We all complete each other, and that’s reality. The people, animals, rocks, and stars are the leaves. They are part of the whole but seen as discrete. There’s no survival if you separate yourself from everyone, and that’s a sign that we all are necessary for each other. They get assistance from all, and they contribute whole.

Why doubt appearance?

Every human being is different from the other. No one is superior to anyone in the sense of beauty. Whether you are black, white, brown, female, or male, that doesn’t impact your personality.

The main highlighting point of this issue is this as most people suffer from bullying and shaming just because of their physical appearance. What is their fault for this? Nothing. People often compare their facial features to others which is harmless until you start feeling insecure about yourself. As Laci Green quoted, "You don't encourage people to take care of their body by telling them to hate it."

It is okay if you embrace someone's beauty, height, color, and abilities but don't dig yourself into these beauty standards. We become self-destructive to fit in with society's standards of beauty. When we copy someone, we don't realize that when we become calamitous to ourselves.

If you are body shaming someone, then know that there's no mental peace for you. By making someone feel low and bullying, you are humiliating your Personality instead of growing. So instead of chasing others, focus on your energy. In the end, we are all humans, and we all have flaws. There’s no priority based on colors, body, and facial features.

What do you seek from your life?

Just observe first what you want in life and where you are standing right now healthy separation is not a bad thing if you're going to improve and get better:

• What are you neglecting in life that makes you insecure?

• What are the things that don't excite you anymore?

• Do you need to improve more?

• What makes you proud of yourself?

What improvements will make you feel good to make constructive criticism on yourself and observe that a healthy separation from others can lead you to a better result if there's room for improving your abilities?

When you overcome your insecurities, you automatically stop separating yourself from others and embrace your abilities and existence.

What will satisfy you:

Thinking of getting out of the separation phase might sound easy, but You need to focus and work with devotion if you want to get there. If you are willing to make your future better, then these are the few basic steps you should focus on:

• If you're going to lose weight to a specific goal, measure the calories you consume, do regular exercise, and follow the diet until you reach your goal.

• If you want to make money, work on your job and save more once you save enough money to set up your own business.

• If you're going to make your relationships stronger with your family and spouse, then start giving more time to your relationships and make a list to make your future more peaceful and better.

If getting to your desired destination makes you happy and distressed, then go for it.

Negative impacts of separation from others:

Generally, when we separate ourselves from others, we observe their good points and compare them to our bad points. This is an entirely destructive separation. We look at their so-called reputation, we admire their beauty, color, and cast, or we look at their achievements and our shortage of accomplishments. This is how we negatively separate ourselves from others. This is not in our hands to have a specific facial feature, color, cast, or body. Do admire others' qualities but don't underestimate your qualities before others. As Zen Shin once said:

"A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it; it just blooms."

If you are at the point of life where you have achieved a lot, you should be more humble and grateful. Some people shame others; whether it's body shaming or any other thing, unknowingly, you are destroying your peace of mind. You may end up losing some great people due to this behavior. You never know what the future holds for you, god forbid you to end up failing the thing you are proud of. You shame others for not having it; in the end, you'll have nothing but regret.

Bragging about your acquisitions in front of others makes your Personality irritating. People don't like the company of such people. This thing makes you off and overconfident. Because of this, even your friends don't enjoy sitting In your surroundings. This thing becomes toxic in your persona.

Being oneself:

This may sound odd if you separate yourself from others, but being in your real self is a power that no one can take from you. You get that internal peace when you stop separating yourself from others that you have no idea about. You eventually get what's important, and that's being yourself.

Saying this is simple but not that easy. What you want in your life thinking that is not easy neither making your path while copying others' scoreboard is easy. But you are the one who can do this. You can make yourself unique and better than anyone, but that can not happen to be in your comfort zone.

Steve Jobs once narrated: "Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life," and that hits hard and is still motivational when you are in the phase of comparing your life with others.

How can being disdainful be pernicious?

Let's now discuss how people become victims of complexity. In many cases, people who feel low about themselves are bullied and shamed by the people who consider themselves prior. You might laugh and feel good by shaming someone or making fun of them at the moment, but it leaves a long-term lousy impact on the victim as well as you. The people whom you make fun of can get better than you in the future, while you will end up regretting your deeds. Anyhow you can overcome your behavior by following a few steps. These are going to be very useful for you if you want to get rid of your toxicity.

Identify what the root cause of your overconfident Personality is. It might be beauty, wealth, or status. Typically these are the things that make you think that you are superior to others. Imagine that all of these can go away in a second; remember that and be humble to everyone around you.

Try to accept others’ flaws, embrace others, keep yourself in their place, and think about what you'd feel if someone mistreats you. Keeping that in mind, you'll eventually think optimistic about others and be more kind towards others.

Be open-minded, don't surround your head with your aptness, only vast your mind for others to embrace other's qualities.

It is human fallibility that when you are separating yourself from someone, you are insecure about something they have and you don't. It's a dangerous practice that makes you feel even more inadequate. Instead of this, create a healthy pattern of complimenting others. I guarantee you that you'll not only make them feel good, but it will brighten up your day also.

Don't let yourself down no matter what. Make separation from others for a positive change in your life. The thing you shouldn't do is mitigate; acceptance for yourself is good until you make it an excuse for not working on yourself. Be a better version of yourself and polish your abilities, be a good human, and believe me, no one will be able to put you down. Try again until you succeed. These words by Les Brown give you the real power “you must tell yourself,’ no matter how hard it is, or how hard it gets, I am going to make it.”

Appreciate your journey:

You're not behind; you're on your path. Believe in yourself, believe in your journey. Separation is a sneaky trick. It makes you think that you are left behind, and you start embracing everyone except yourself. Stop separating your struggle phase from someone's success. This is destructive to both your mind and health. Remember that you are unique and extraordinary in your way, don't let the negativity of separation overcome your gloriousness.

Don't let yourself down no matter what. Make separation from others for a positive change in your life. The thing you shouldn't do is mitigate; acceptance for yourself is good until you make it an excuse for not working on yourself. Be a better version of yourself and polish your abilities, be a good human, and believe me, no one will be able to put you down. Try again until you succeed. These words by Les Brown give you the real power “you must tell yourself,’ no matter how hard it is, or how hard it gets, I am going to make it.”

Yoga, Meditation, and a Healthy Lifestyle:

At some point in life, you become frustrated at your destroyed mental condition. In the hustle of life, we fail to take care of our mind and body, our thoughts shatter, and our bodies are discomfited. Take some time to calm your soul. Yoga is the best therapy to soothe your mind and relax your body. If you separate yourself a lot from others, this will help you a lot with your thoughts.

Wake up in the early morning and give yourself a 30-minute session of Yoga at this time of day, you are free of hectic thoughts, and you can gather all the positivity at this hour. Spare this time to heal from all the negative reviews, and start your day with positivity and total energy.

Doing exercise and maintaining a healthy lifestyle takes your negative thoughts away. You tend to be more positive, and you keep more focus on yourself instead of separating yourself from others.

Make yourself comfortable and lay down on the floor. When you feel relaxed, start practicing deep breaths. A straightforward path to do this is to place one hand on your belly and one hand on your heart. When you feel that you have inaugurated a state of tranquility, let your breath return to its more natural rhythm. By practicing this regularly, all thoughts of separation from others will be eradicated on their own. This is one of the premier ways to comfort your mind and body.

Be positive, be contented:

This era has a lot of sad and discouraged people. There is so much hate and negativity towards each other in everyone. Having a peaceful mind and survival is very hard in these times. The one who can thrive and survive in this generation is the one who has positive thoughts. As Lindsey Vonn said, "life changes very quickly, in a very positive way, if you let it."

Positive thinking is not a magic trick that will disperse all your problems. But what it will do is realistic, you will feel good, and your problems will seem more manageable. Keep your thoughts more on the good things of others and your own. Whether this is a tiny thing, you'll eventually start feeling good if it makes you happy. Spending your time with positive people, it'll boost your energy level. By practicing these little things, you'll automatically stop separating yourself from others.

First of all, know that whatever you are going through will not stay with you forever. Focus on your aim and try to get better at your skills. For instance, if you compare yourself to anyone, distract yourself and engage yourself in some other activity. Do not obsess with anyone or anything. Remind yourself that it's nothing but the illusion of your mind, so just let it go. As Owner OF. quoted, "Free your mind and let go of what is killing your soul."

Oneness kills your ego:

The concept of oneness fully eradicates your ego. When you have these thoughts going on in your head, separating yourself from others will make you unique, or you’ll seem cool, but that’s the wrong mindset. Instead, you’ll deprive yourself of loneliness. However, oneness strengthens you your fears fade away when you don’t prioritize yourself and see every human with respect and love that’s now automatically your ego goes away. Don’t let your ego lead you and don’t separate yourself from others.

Lead yourself:

Don't let your thoughts teach you what's wrong and what's right. Don't mislead yourself because there will be no one who you can blame but yourself. It's about how you perceive the people and things around you. If being negative is in your hand, then you can be positive. Acceptance and compromise is the key to being happy, and letting others live content and positively; that’s how you control yourself. You'll no longer be the one to separate yourself from others in any way; you'll be the one who is confident about yourself. In the end, our thoughts connect, we interconnect and we are all one